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Tea Consent (Clean)

August 14, 2019


If you’re still struggling with consent,
just imagine instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea.
You say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they go “oh my god, I would LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!” then you know they want a cup of tea.
If you say “hey, would you like a cup of tea?” and they’re like “um I’m not really
sure…” then you can make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware that they might not
drink it, and if they don’t drink it then – then and this is the important part –  don’t
make them drink it. Just because you made it doesn’t mean you are entitled to watch
them drink it. And If they say “No thank you” then don’t
make them tea. At all. Just don’t make them tea, don’t make them drink tea, don’t
get annoyed at them for not wanting tea. They just don’t want tea, ok?
They might say “Yes please, that’s kind of you” and then when the tea arrives they
actually don’t want the tea at all. Sure, that’s kind of annoying as you’ve gone to
all the effort of making the tea, but they remain under no obligation to drink the tea.
They did want tea, now they don’t. Some people change their mind in the time it takes
to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk. And it’s ok for people to change
their mind, and you are still not entitled to watch them drink.
And If they are unconscious, don’t make them tea. Unconscious people don’t want
tea and can’t answer the question “do you want tea” because they’re are unconscious.
Ok, maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea, and they said yes,
but in the time it took you to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk they
are now unconscious. You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person
is safe, and this is the important part again – don’t make them drink the tea. They
said yes then, sure, but unconscious people don’t wanttea.
If someone said yes to tea, started drinking it, and then passed out before they’d finished
it, don’t keep on pouring it down their throat. Take the tea away and make sure they
are safe.  Because unconscious people don’t want tea. Trust me on this.
If someone said “yes” to tea around your house last Saturday, that doesn’t mean that
they want you to make them tea all the time. They don’t want you to come around unexpectedly
to their place and make them tea and force them to drink it going “BUT YOU WANTED TEA
LAST WEEK”, or to wake up to find you pouring tea down their throat going “BUT YOU WANTED
TEA LAST NIGHT”. If you can understand how completely ludicrous
it is to force people to have tea when they don’t wanttea, and you are able to understand
when people don’t want tea, then how hard is it to understand it when it comes to sex?
Whether it’s tea or sex, Consent Is Everything. And on that note, I am going to make myself
a cup of tea.

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100 Comments

  • Reply kiera purdy January 28, 2018 at 12:18 am

    What is this

  • Reply Eva Martane January 29, 2018 at 7:02 pm

    But what if they prefer coffee?

  • Reply Bertie Hawkes February 6, 2018 at 9:17 pm

    what if you want three tea's is it called a teasome

  • Reply Libby Browning February 7, 2018 at 5:12 pm

    I do not care if they want the tea their getting the tea

  • Reply Ruben Hayk February 8, 2018 at 7:05 pm

    In moderation even children can enjoy tea.

  • Reply Mintwo February 12, 2018 at 1:11 pm

    Thanks dude. This is now a meme at our school.

  • Reply lavar ball's son February 14, 2018 at 7:14 pm

    What if you want two teas? Is that called a teasome?

  • Reply RaZe Nightmare February 21, 2018 at 9:48 pm

    Tea is stored in the balls

  • Reply Amber Animations. February 26, 2018 at 8:57 pm

    I just had to watch this in class.

  • Reply smarty_ monkey March 1, 2018 at 1:54 am

    WE WACHED THIS IN CLASS TODAY THEN SHE TELLS US WHAT TEA MEAN HA HA HA 🙁

  • Reply CpJules March 2, 2018 at 4:20 am

    My best friend and i saw this in class (Health) today. When he mention somethin at the end of video.. We both just died right there XD

  • Reply Pam Tucker March 6, 2018 at 7:21 pm

    I agree this is a great analogy and should be shown several times through out middle and high school.. So many times this has happened and people also to realize that date rape is rape it dont matter that it was someone you have been with before .. and that YES this includes if a wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend says NO the husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend MUST respect that!!

  • Reply wolfdwarf March 17, 2018 at 12:29 am

    What if they say they want tea, you make them tea, they happily drink it, then they say you forced them to drink it? WHAT THEN???

  • Reply wolfdwarf March 17, 2018 at 12:30 am

    wait, so if a drunk person asks for tea, I shouldn't make them tea???

  • Reply Esoj Levquez March 20, 2018 at 3:49 am

    Sorry, but this video is ridiculous.  Teach sexual education with sexual education.  Be adults, please!

  • Reply OneWeirdDude March 21, 2018 at 3:33 am

    The way I see it, anyone who doesn't understand consent, or doesn't even care about it, won't benefit from this. Which is sad, though.

  • Reply Niki And Janie March 22, 2018 at 9:58 am

    This completely minimizes sexual assault. These are adults and don't need 6 year old analogies. The voice over was so casual; almost lighthearted. Twenty five percent of young women will be assaulted. Let's send a STRONG message to the criminals. If they're unconscious don't make them TEA? THIS is the video you use? I'm horrified.

  • Reply Aerol Orion March 23, 2018 at 12:26 pm

    https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1553765603/teasy-the-filtering-sippy-cap-for-a-healthier-you

  • Reply Jim Kropf April 5, 2018 at 9:45 pm

    The one thing this video doesn't address unfortunately is how common it has become to accuse someone of rape AFTER they have given non-alcohol/drug induced, enthusiastic verbal consent, never once changed their mind in the middle, continued all the way to the end with fantastic, satisfied verbal consent….and then "regretted" the consent given the night before and charging someone with rape….the mind-bending femi-nazi agenda classifies this as rape….and if that's the case, the whole "consent" thing is pointless and worthless because it means NO ONE is safe…..ever….even if they get verbal consent….BS!!!!!

  • Reply TomHokage_PT Hokage April 11, 2018 at 7:53 am

    THE TEA MAN THE TEA

  • Reply Андрей Сощенко April 29, 2018 at 7:18 am

    it is so much stupid. fuck, this sooo much stupid. okey, how about money from man? about work. about tips. why sex so different and just about girls. so stupid.

  • Reply Kemily Play April 30, 2018 at 1:25 pm

    muito legal

  • Reply Ridiculicious May 3, 2018 at 7:32 pm

    It's sad that most people have become so against the concept of abstinence, that a video like this needs to be made to explain, "Yes means yes, and No means no."
    I hope this made things clearer for the people who need it clarified, at least.

  • Reply Nancy Hicks May 4, 2018 at 3:59 pm

    Every one going to college should watch this – everyone in high school should have watched this.

  • Reply K G May 11, 2018 at 3:50 pm

    Omg! Really? Even if a person asked for tea and was literally begging for tea and going on and on about how bad they wanted and needed tea and then said “you know what? I dont want tea now.” And i made them the best fucking tea ever guess what? THEY ARE FUCKING DRINKING THE TEA! Every last fucking drop of it too!

  • Reply K G May 11, 2018 at 3:51 pm

    Also how the fuck did the person become unconscious within the time to make some tea? Was Bill Cosby making the tea or somethung? Because I think this is more important an issue now over whether a person still wants tea or not.

  • Reply Soccer 12_34 May 12, 2018 at 2:58 am

    We watch this in health and everyone died laughing

  • Reply Ser Tat May 14, 2018 at 3:54 pm

    this is the funniest thing ever what a beta pmsl

  • Reply Ser Tat May 14, 2018 at 4:51 pm

    what if they are dying of dehydration I'm making them fricking drink it

  • Reply K SS May 24, 2018 at 4:09 pm

    weid analogy. if you dont want tea and I do and I drink my tea is that the same and just masturbating in my living room with friends over?

  • Reply Yalena Cachia June 3, 2018 at 3:56 pm

    What if I payed for the tea?

  • Reply Kate DIY June 20, 2018 at 12:19 am

    Is made me laugh so much 😂😂

  • Reply Synergy Revolution June 23, 2018 at 3:28 pm

    Yeah, yeah, yeah. This is all so easy to understand. Here's the thing though, when will we start requiring women to provide something beyond just their word when they accuse someone of rape? I mean, can't we at least run women through lie detector tests when they're accusing someone of rape? Because women are fully capable of lying and they lie just as often if not more than men. So someone's word never has and never will be good enough evidence that they were raped.

  • Reply The Anime Fanbase June 29, 2018 at 5:14 am

    My sister made applesauce at like 10 pm and tried to make me eat it even though I didn't appleauce nor had I asked for it. So I showed her this video and told her to replace tea with applesauce.

  • Reply Cyris July 19, 2018 at 8:29 pm

    My college showed this to us during orientation. That was great!

  • Reply tomas Gilles July 20, 2018 at 4:15 am

    didnt work i got raped online in world of warcraft

  • Reply CJ TOO LIT July 22, 2018 at 4:27 pm

    They are making college kids think we slow asf. Lmaooo. Good video though

  • Reply Arrogant Wizard August 5, 2018 at 6:21 pm

    Can I charge them for the tea?

  • Reply Paul Huang August 19, 2018 at 7:34 pm

    What if you offer them earl grey but they say they only drink black tea

  • Reply Paul Huang August 19, 2018 at 7:39 pm

    If they say they don't want tea can you have tea by yourself?

  • Reply dimitrios otis August 22, 2018 at 3:15 pm

    Some nasal-voiced guy with a smug 'funny' tone hiding what is really a preachy moralistic lecture using a silly analogy to sex– and this gets presented in classrooms? How condescending—or I guess how pathetic and panic-stricken about the body we are as a culture.

  • Reply Anon Nimus August 25, 2018 at 6:19 pm

    HAHAHAHAH THIS IS HILARIOUS. ‘FORCE THEM TO DRINK TEA’ yooo the animation was amazing 🤣

  • Reply imalittle stupid September 2, 2018 at 11:53 pm

    If they're dead do they still want tea?

  • Reply Hursttie September 13, 2018 at 8:23 pm

    im fascinated that people actually need it to be laid out like this.

  • Reply That Guy September 23, 2018 at 9:19 pm

    Imagine we applied this standard to multiculturalism and people who aren't "woke."

  • Reply Asmi Dhungel September 25, 2018 at 2:25 pm

    My health teacher showed us this 😂😂😂

  • Reply Wolvesword Lupus September 27, 2018 at 1:18 am

    i watched this in health class and at around 1:58 everyone burst into laughter

  • Reply Magenta Bunny October 3, 2018 at 7:58 pm

    Had to watch this in school today, no regrets

  • Reply potato psoas October 6, 2018 at 2:07 am

    My favourite is chai tea

  • Reply ButteredBreadSlice October 12, 2018 at 7:50 pm

    Watched this in school.

  • Reply Juan Alvarez October 24, 2018 at 6:47 am

    What if they make it themselves and you were gonna make it but, they have made it?

  • Reply TotalFreshness October 26, 2018 at 9:53 pm

    Saying Yes to the tea, enjoying it when you get it. Later on being regretful because the person made tea for someone else too, doesn’t mean you didn’t want the tea in the first place.

  • Reply banana /1 October 31, 2018 at 3:21 am

    Move that in time a bit.. you make tea, they sip, and spit it out, and now yoy can go to jail because they didnt like the taste. Oh well…

  • Reply Mystery Boy November 10, 2018 at 1:25 pm

    I love having tea at my aunties house 😅😅😅

  • Reply Anthony Herrera November 12, 2018 at 10:47 pm

    I seriously came here looking for tips on tea etiquette and when I started watching I skipped 7 seconds into the video. It took me longer than it should have for me to realize that this had nothing to do with tea.

  • Reply Robert Castillo November 13, 2018 at 10:54 am

    What if someone asks you for tea; you make it; they drink it, and then the next morning the cops are at your door?

  • Reply I Have 10,000 Roblox November 22, 2018 at 8:27 am

    unconscious people don't want tea

    Agree to disagree >:)

  • Reply I Have 10,000 Roblox November 22, 2018 at 8:29 am

    change tea to the d

  • Reply Olivia Roffey November 27, 2018 at 8:08 pm

    Powerful & necessary.

  • Reply young man Logan December 3, 2018 at 12:06 pm

    That was awesome jdndndndnd

  • Reply Samantha Ashby December 4, 2018 at 11:00 pm

    And that’s the tea sis

  • Reply Destiny Renteria December 10, 2018 at 5:36 pm

    Nice video dude

  • Reply YouthInAsia December 18, 2018 at 7:38 pm

    Anti-consent squad reporting in😎😎😎😎😎😎

  • Reply kamika allen December 24, 2018 at 2:28 am

    Im going to make myself a cup of tea

  • Reply Destin Torres January 11, 2019 at 8:17 pm

    "I'm gonna go make myself some tea" does that mean your gonna go choke your chicken?

  • Reply Soma Art January 17, 2019 at 5:55 pm

    I always have tea by myself…

  • Reply Eduardo Moran January 23, 2019 at 4:01 am

    hahahahaha. I am dead so please do not pour tea down my throat. I came across this video as I am taking a course in the history of sex, gender, and sexuality in the Unite States. The class is online and it has been really interesting. This video is in fact the very last assignment before my final. If I learned anything from this intense 4 weeks course is that you do not pour tea down people;'s throats,,,,specially unconscious one. hahahahahah

  • Reply He/She said What? January 24, 2019 at 9:41 pm

    "i'm going to go make myself a cup of tea." ummm….ok.

  • Reply Olympia Roberts January 27, 2019 at 1:55 pm

    I haven’t had tea in 4 months. I miss tea.

  • Reply Gas Master 1488 January 31, 2019 at 5:25 am

    This is insulting to my intelligence.

  • Reply Jon Dickinson February 11, 2019 at 5:07 am

    i want tea

  • Reply Luc S February 13, 2019 at 12:06 am

    I love how passive aggressive he sounds

  • Reply Tree_Hugger February 14, 2019 at 3:52 pm

    Dumb. There are a lot of reasons why it's dumb, but I'll just point out one that you should know, and it probably has implications for most other permutations of this argument:

    All Analogies Are False.

    Yep. That's the reality. Why? Because no two things, events, thoughts – No two things in the real world are identical. Thus, all analogies are false at least to some extent, and often to a very great extent.

    A thousand years ago, or three thousand, analogies were a mainstay of the teachers, mystics, gurus, charlatans. The common folk could understand well crafted analogies that suited their level of intelligence and education, and hardly anyone was smart enough to know the inherent flaw. But, now that we have advanced a little in the sophistication of our logic, there are better ways to make a point.

    Doesn't stop the manipulators and flim-flam people from using analogies, though.

  • Reply 뮤직비디오 X 가사 February 27, 2019 at 3:54 pm

    Doods you are missing the point
    The point is to not force people have sex with you
    Or any other kind of relationship
    They're not teaching you 'bout tea manners

  • Reply Sherry Davis February 28, 2019 at 3:09 am

    Or in other words, don't be a pig. Respect others.

  • Reply David Haigh March 13, 2019 at 9:07 am

    This is crazy, confusing, obfuscating, tedious, repetitive, divisive garbage that ultimately undermines the very concept it purports to advocate.

  • Reply Mia Forever March 24, 2019 at 5:14 pm

    No tea for Walter. He is a very special boy.

  • Reply Kurt Kurt March 25, 2019 at 4:15 pm

    Also don't have someone pay for your tea knowing full well you won't drink the tea with them. Buy your own tea if that is the case.

  • Reply ZebraKid69 March 29, 2019 at 2:41 pm

    I have tea by myself anyways

  • Reply Rob DeGaetano April 1, 2019 at 6:46 am

    Am I a bad person if I had to pay for the tea?

  • Reply Mr.VissTM April 4, 2019 at 4:44 am

    If i made tea, and you said you wanted some. but then after i make the tea and you changed your mind, i'm throwing it in your face OwO

  • Reply george mihaita April 24, 2019 at 9:09 pm

    this newspeak programming is funny.
    but useless, since it's not in Arabic

  • Reply The Ravenous Lamppost May 1, 2019 at 1:37 am

    What if they drink the tea, throw it up afterwards and blame you for it?

  • Reply Abagail Evans May 4, 2019 at 7:03 am

    This is such an important video!

  • Reply William Davis May 7, 2019 at 12:04 am

    Unconscious people don’t want tea!!!!!!!!

  • Reply Felicity Messer May 13, 2019 at 12:31 am

    Is drinking tea*

    "Imagen tea is like sex"

    Spits out the tea*
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  • Reply katelyn fifteen May 17, 2019 at 2:39 am

    We watched this today at school. It was supposed to be a serious discussion about body awareness. The kids and I were laughing hysterically the whole time XD

  • Reply K-popOnCrack KIM TAEHYUNG May 21, 2019 at 7:08 pm

    ask before doing anything sexual even in the slightest.

  • Reply ᗰᗴᗰᗴᔕ シシ May 23, 2019 at 11:37 pm

    We watched this in science class.

  • Reply Cyber Pleb May 29, 2019 at 3:47 am

    So…. I should just give them coffee then?

  • Reply howard baxter May 29, 2019 at 4:16 pm

    If someone asked me to make tea, they are drinking the tea regardless as to whether or not they want it anymore.

  • Reply Elize vd Spuy June 11, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I love how he used tea to explain how consent work it just makes it so clear. No one can not understand this or say "but"… Well done video!!

  • Reply Zohara Wolfhard June 12, 2019 at 8:47 am

    They showed us this in school and now everyone is like “dOeS aNyOnE wAnT mY tEa!”

  • Reply Error June 17, 2019 at 8:59 pm

    that's the tea sis

  • Reply space dork July 7, 2019 at 2:08 pm

    perfect analogy cuz i don't like tea

  • Reply Dog Meat July 8, 2019 at 6:58 pm

    Watching this as part of my employee sexual harassment training.

  • Reply Bobby Behrens July 11, 2019 at 12:19 am

    Drinking game: take a shot every time he says tea

  • Reply Head Strong July 22, 2019 at 5:34 am

    Females are playing by a different strategy. It's yes to the tea and Thank-you….Then shortly after they regret drinking the tea. And contract the police saying you made them drink that tea. NO JOKE!!!

  • Reply Overwatch Archives Operative August 2, 2019 at 12:44 pm

    Go drink Your own Tea.

  • Reply Helga Da Dragon August 6, 2019 at 5:10 am

    If I had a dollar everytime you said the word "Tea", I would have 39 dollars.

    Also great video!

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